I was a hospice social worker for over 20 years, so I am quite familiar with death and human reactions to it. That said, I wanted to address some garbage pop psychology going around the internet the last couple days.

First, it is totally normal to feel relieved or to even feel glad when a terrible person dies. This does not mean you support the killing of that person. For example, I had a client whose father was incredibly abusive. He never made amends or apologized. In fact, he continued to be emotionally abusive. When he died, she went out to dinner with friends to celebrate. There was nothing wrong with her response to this. For her, it was cathartic.

Second, it is totally normal to feel joy about the demise of a horrible person. When the news of Hitler’s death reached people in concentration camps, they were jubilant. This was the man responsible for their enslavement and torture. He had murdered millions of people. So, celebrating the end of his reign of terror was to be expected. In fact, it would have been strange if people did not feel this.

Third, it is totally normal to laugh when an evil person dies. When Kissinger finally died, the internet exploded with humorous memes. This was because he was an evil man who was responsible for the deaths of countless people in the Global South and misery that lasts to this day. Laughing about the death of this odious person wasn’t pathological. It was an emotional release.

None of this means that a person approves of or is reveling in murder or violence because they feel this way. It simply means that they recognize that the person who is gone did horrible things to other human beings and now that they are gone, they will not be missed. And they are glad about it because their cruelty has ended.

So, enough with the shaming. Human emotions are complicated and messy. But tone policing them is not only annoying and counterproductive, it is often far more damaging in the long run.

Kenn Orfanos, September 2025